My little system

Plus and minus. That's the secret to my own, home-developed psychological system to strengthen relationships between human beings. Sounds easy. And it is. It is, of course, not a quick fix, but rather a long-term strategy, but I can explain it in just a few words, and I promise that it helps in ANY relationship. It is quite easy - there are plus signals and minus signals. Being aware of your signals raises your awareness of how you act towards other people. Plus is everything that brings you closer to the other person, makes you open. Minus is everything that is hostile, closing off and turning away. There is an unwritten agreement hardwired into our genes that this system works, but one can actually draw benefits from talking about it, and agreeing to use it. For every plus signal you get, you are to respond with one of your own, no matter what the situation. And well, if you get a minus, it is easy to understand that you get one. You can raise the issue, and if you get too many, you will be lured into responding with one of your own.

Examples? When you come home from work, what do you do? Do you walk in, toss your bag in the corner without looking? Or do you look at your other with a little smile and say hi? In the morning, do you stagger out of bed with a face like a shrivelled prune, or do you stretch and watch the rising sun with a warm feeling? When you drop the milk carton, do you swear and curse, or do you look at the other and laugh, because it looks like the face of your old aunt? It works in every situation! In the mall, do you smile at the counter and say something unexpected, or do you just mutter a greeting and swipe the plastic?

In the Golden Hour, taking at the beach in Lomma, Skåne, overlooking the bridge tying together Denmark and Sweden. A great place to be, a greater woman to be with!

I had planned to have some fun with friends, set up a couple of gaming sessions, but I know I have been busy of late. In fact, I haven't hardly even had a night of in a couple of weeks, but last night was relaxing. Got back from some business trips around 1830, having left the rental and walked home, and it was great. Ate some sushi and watched tv-series. Some oldies but goldies. Since I intend to use some of it in games and studies, there is a goal to my watching now, and that makes it more interesting for us borderline OCDs. Some of the shows are borderline fantastic, like Millenium (the old X-files crossover) to some british crimedrama (Profiler, Ripper street) to some outright weird american stuff (Warehouse 13). Gotta keep myself occupied until the woman and the goggies get back into circulation!

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